The Comeback

Have you ever screwed up big time?

If you haven’t well that is pretty impressive.  Most of us have royally messed up, made the wrong decision, even in a leadership role.  What you did is not as important as… what are you going to change about your behavior so that it does not happen again?

Remember Einstein says that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

So when you royally mess up and get knocked down… You have to stand back up.  No pity party.  No blaming other people for the problem.  Adults, leaders are accountable for their actions.

The next step is assessment.  Cannot fix a problem without running the diagnostic first.  When you bring your car to the mechanic, the first thing that they do is hook it up to a machine and run the diagnostic to see what the problem might be.

Don’t be afraid to address the problem head on.  Be brave in front of your critics and know that your fans, friends and family will support you.   You are a leader and you have to get it (whatever IT is) right.  No matter if it is leadership in your personal life or something in you are experiencing in a leadership role out in the world.

If you get a second chance, make sure your game is tight.    Always be learning from those who are smarter than you.  Surround yourself with talented and loving people.

Everyone loves a good comeback story.  Kill it in the new year!

Happiness is all the rage. -Promise Ring

An easy definition of culture is, “how we do things around here.” Depending on how things are done in your organization of 1 or thousands will either result in a strong or weak culture. Strong cultures have happy people. Happiness is not the only element to a strong culture, but people do not perform well when they are miserable, sad, angry, annoyed, scared … you get it.

At the end of the day, you are in charge of your own happiness. Nevertheless, leaders can support the growth of happiness within their organization. Tich Nat Hahn says that you have to feed your happiness everyday or it will die. Just like some people had classroom pets growing up, happiness is the office pet that must be fed and nurtured everyday.

There are more ways than I can think of to nurture happiness the organization pet.
-Smile more, laugh more, tell jokes
-Make food available, eat together, happy hour, detox together, drink water
-Celebrate wins, birthdays, weddings and babies
-Encourage your people to socialize, connect,build relationships and friendships with each other
-Adopt authenticity and sincerity as core values. Don’t talk about it, be about it
-Wellness programs: Therapists, Gyms, Dietitians, Spiritual Advisers
-Learning together, alone, with a coach, classes, trainings, seminars, books
-Retreats: Day long and some overnights
- Meet your goals and give credit where it is due
-Find ways to make various roles easier or more efficient
-Allow for play
-Pay attention to your communication systems - is everyone being heard?
-Respect difference
-Be inclusive
-Hire the right people and end the contracts of others

Life isn’t all guns or all roses…but no matter what comes your way in business make sure your organization, your people are strong due to daily happiness servings.


All you can do is all you can do. – Art Williams

During challenging times be it personal, professional or a clients experience. I often go back to this phrase: “All you can do is all you can do” or in my words: do all that you can do and then let it go. Sometimes we have to acknowledge that what we did was not enough. If this is true… well as Pema Chodron says, “The truth is inconvenient.”

People often say that they have done all that they can. I believe they are wrong. The more precise phrase would be that they have done all that they are willing to do. Sharing what you are willing to do takes some cajones. But the brave leaders who state what they are willing to do and actually do it… set an important boundary for themselves and their people. They are not running around shouting about winning at all costs; by the way that sounds insane and inhumane. Not all effort is right effort.

Be accountable, fully accountable for your results.

I think Dr. Seuss wrote a book titled, “Shoulda, coulda, woulda…” or maybe it was a poem? Nevertheless, be fearless about working towards your goals AND be fearless about your peace of mind. No excuses and Be loving. Enjoy the process or life will suck. All you can do is all you can do… allows you to then go up high and see the big picture, take it all in (if you can) and learn.

Kandle 3/22/2017